What it means to trust myself

This week’s theme during life coach training is trusting myself.

We had to do two coaching sessions as homework before class. These, along with the discussions during class this morning,  were illuminating and I feel a real shift in my perspective. During coaching and class, I realized the following:

1.  “God trusts you.”  This year, I decided to put a lot of trust in the universe and just allowed things to flow organically, without me having to force things or be my over-achieving self.  God had responded, putting the right things into place at the right time, allowing me to flow into the moment, without much effort.  My first coach pointed out, “God trusts you.  He trusts that you will take this life coaching journey to help people.”  I realized that trust in the universe was a two-way street and that this knowledge of God’s trust in me was a very powerful tool to have when I feel myself doubting or wavering in my commitment to be a life coach.

2.  Be yourself.  My second coach asked me to put my hand on my heart and my belly during a session.  She asked me what my heart would say to me if I trusted my self.  My heart said:  “It’s time to awaken. It’s time to play bigger.  Be yourself.”  I noticed that I was being a “good student” during my training which meant that I stuck very much to the book, making sure I followed the handouts that were given, doing the homework, ensuring I asked the “right questions.”  But when we had to practice spontaneity and creativity, I realized that I could be myself during a coaching session, that I could ask what felt right at that moment, that I didn’t have to be like my teacher or the coaches that I admired.  Realizing this was a real gift not just to me but even to future clients who will want and respect my thoughts and perspective.

3.  When I am not trusting the process, I put on my “good girl” mask.  I make sure I do all the right things to please people. I’m a good student, a good mom, a good daughter, a good employee.  Things get submitted on time, the to-do list is checked off, requirements are completed.  But my heart is not involved, my being is not engaged and I’m just going through the motions.  Then I feel resentful, irritated, stressed and burnt out.  Everyone else is happy except for me.

4.  When I am trusting the process, I feel excited, energised, brimming with ideas and feel like I’m in the flow.  I feel like I have a handle of things.  This means that I had time to do things slowly but surely, with more thought and deliberation, and then be able to move forward with what I need to do.

How about you?  What does it mean when you trust yourself?  Try completing the following statements “When I am not trusting my process, I ____________” and “When I am trusting the process, I _______________” and see what comes up.

I received a very powerful insight during a very early coaching session (6 in the morning!):  God trusts you.  This message really resonated with me and will stay with me as I go through this life coaching journey. (Photo is of the Paoay church bell tower during my mini vacay to Ilocos during Holy Week.)

I received a very powerful insight during a very early coaching session (6 in the morning!): “God trusts you.” This message really resonated with me and will stay with me as I go through this life coaching journey. (Photo is of the Paoay church bell tower during my mini vacay to Ilocos during Holy Week.)

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